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Hobo Living And Natural Hair Troubles

by Ifunanya

I tend to move around a lot. In some ways I like to consider myself a hobo.

Okay maybe hobo is a bit too strong, how about nomad then. Is that any better?

Listen, the point is I almost never have any issues with packing my bags and heading out to a new destination. It really isn’t a big deal to me. I have been told that it is a symptom of my deep rooted and not yet properly dealt with fear of rejection and isolation issues from my childhood.  Okay Dr. Phil, I think I just like to explore but okay.

I think everyone needs to stop over analyzing everything and just let me see the world. How bouh dah?

You know, it’s funny in a way because in the same breath I am an extreme hoarder with a crucial inability to let go of anything or move on once I get comfortable. I love my familiar zones – places, people, habits, stuff like that.

So you see? Am I really suffering from pent up rejection and isolation issue?

Anyways, I have digressed. I was going to tell you about the trouble with finding a new hairdresser each time I’m in a new place.
As you may or may not know my hair is natural, which means unrelaxed, and in  all its 4C glory. Which as you probably already know can be quite a problem.

I can’t wear my hair out in the open for too long without fighting the urge to put a scissors thru it and call it a day.

Why am I telling you all this?

Recently, I had a wedding to attend and it was demanded that I look well…..presentable.
Ignoring my instincts and because my friends swore by all the gods, I went to a new unchattered hairdresser with my weave in hand.
I showed him what I wanted and he nodded in agreement. He seemed like he had actually grasped what I had said so I held my breath and prayed for the best.
About 45 mins later, it became apparent that;

1) He didn’t understand me

2) My prayers didn’t go very far.

Looking at my reflection in the mirror I let out a sigh and smiled in agreement to the fake “the hair fine die” and “E fit you o” that flew across the room.

If I have to be honest the finished product wasn’t that bad. It was quite fine actually but here’s the thing…

….it wasn’t what I wanted.

I had spent most of the day on my feet and moving around so I was exhausted and in no mood to argue.
I paid him, thanked him and left.

Two days after the wedding I took the hair out whilst crying soft, heartfelt tears for my money that will never be recovered.

I have been here before. More times than I care to count and it almost always ends with me angry, and a few bucks poorer.

Solution:
In the spirit of not wasting my time and money I have decided to go in the way of wigs.

Yup.
I have never worn or fancied them. Growing up if I heard the word “wig” I would instantly imagine an elderly woman with thinning hair and no edges. Wearing that horse hair looking cap and always ready to tell on me when I was caught doing something I shouldn’t.

But, times have changed.

And there’s a new trend of beautifully crafted, actually beautiful and actually wearable wigs.

And even tho I probably won’t be able to whip my hair as freely and often as I might. I yearn for the duality of looking fabulous all day and tossing said “fabulousity” at the end of each day.

 

Hobo Living And Natural Hair Troubles

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13 comments

Phiyah January 19, 2018 - 1:09 pm

You’re so cute and then you look like a nerd and you write so well! And before I forget NOMAD is also a strong word.

I have just one wig and I just got it cos I recent took off my long hair *in tears* I really really love wig and I think I’ll be wearing more this year and oh! If not for my bank account that is shouting ‘respect yourself and stay one place’ I would be like you.

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Ifunanya January 19, 2018 - 1:18 pm

Yup, NOMAD really is a strong word but it is also goals. Tbh my bank account screams aloud too but I have mastered the act of selective hearing. LooL.
You must be really brave to chop off your hair. I could never!!!

Thank you for all the kind words…xxx

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Amaka January 19, 2018 - 10:01 pm

What a post! Lol you just really poured out your mind to us. I liked it though! And yass I’m an avid supporter of wig gang! Definitely look into it, it saves lives and time! Just don’t get too excited and whip your hair too much o! I hate going to the salon and coming out with what I don’t want. I’ve never loosened hair after paying for it because I’m very tight with money and can’t even fathom loosening something after just doing it. Ah! It must last o! Lol, maybe one day I’ll have an experience like that.. not like I’m wishing it will happen to me. Here’s to hairdressers that will understand you more, and may your edges stay in place always. Amen!

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Ifunanya January 20, 2018 - 7:15 am

Amen to that prayer!!!! Yes sis, I poured out my heart and wigs are a time saver, money saver, stress saver! I’m now fully team wigs.

I really hope you never have to take out your weave only a few days after getting them. The thing can pain, issa heartbreaking situation. Thank you for all the kind words…xxx

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chic therapy January 20, 2018 - 1:34 am

Totally feel you about the hair situation. Sometimes one is just too weak to argue with the hair dresser sef.

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Ifunanya January 20, 2018 - 7:16 am

Exactly! The damage is done anyways so lemme just be going abi?

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Ify January 20, 2018 - 5:40 am

Nice write up babes…….I’m not used to wearing wigs so most times I just go on my natural hair….though retouched.

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Ifunanya January 20, 2018 - 7:18 am

Thank you 😊 I wish my own can be that easy. But no, I want to do team natural 🙄

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Desire Uba January 22, 2018 - 1:07 am

My dear, I cannot stand sew-ins, I just kent!
I literally always have either cornrows or a wig or a turban on. Sew-ins, mbanu.
I really enjoyed reading this, so relatable. Some hair-dressers do the utter most. You think they know what they are doing, but in truth, they have no darned clue. The truth is, we all do it. We need to work to gain experience so we make a few mistakes on the way and get better with time.
Can I just say I love your entire outfit? Yes, I really do.
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The Great Lady January 23, 2018 - 9:19 am

We are on the same page, honestly. I have natural hair too and this year I told myself I’m joining the wig gang. Funny enough, I had always hated wigs, not like I had an experience, oh, but I just felt it wouldn’t sit on my head, lol.
A wig would save me stress and time and money, lol.
http://www.memoirsofagreatlady.com

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Demilade January 24, 2018 - 6:07 pm

First of all, I’m in love with your jeans girl! And secondly, that feeling when a hairdresser makes your hair and does something completely different to what asked for can pain ehn. Wig life really is the way! xx
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Ife October 18, 2018 - 12:29 pm

I LOVE YOUR BLOG!!!! from your style of writing to your alluring post titlesto the images, everything is superb! I’m natural too and I have also resolved to wiga. Mans can’t comman kill herself

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Ifunanya October 18, 2018 - 12:48 pm

Thank you so much for the kind words. Also, wigs are the way forward 💆🏾‍♀️

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